I started this blog to keep folk up to date on my husband's melanoma treatments. I have kept up daily blogs for 15 1/2 years…sometimes health related...sometimes just daily routine. June 16th Woody took his final breath in his long health battle. I have blogged for so long that it is part of my daily routine…so I guess I will continue with posts from me about how I cope with this new stage in my life…widowhood.
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Long Day!
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Planning
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Endings
Monday, March 28, 2011
Life Goes On!
Sunday, March 27, 2011
Life Isn't Always Fair!
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Spring has definitely sprung!
Spring is beautiful here in AZ too. Lovely temps in the 70's...birds singing...flowers blooming. Also we had some lovely flowers delivered from Melany, Wade, Erin and Alex. And, then Cheryl's grandchildren brought us flowers today too...and Cheryl is all decorated for Easter...so Spring inside and outside here.
I talked to Woody this morning and he reported what he had done so far today! He got up early and started to go on a walk...but he could hear rumbles in the distance and decided that he'd better not head out at that time. He went to Kroger and WalMart for his weekly grocery shopping and later to the library. He said that he had tried to do a bit in the yard in between rain showers. He was watching March Madness when I called.
Now for the report on "us." We are just muddling through here...sometimes wondering how we will get through...trying to figure out just how to do things in the situation we are in. Sometimes we are about to roll on the floor laughing due to our muddlings (you can not imagine some of the situations that we have gotten in trying to help Mother...we are definitely not nurses!) and other times things are not so funny! At the moment Mother is resting very peacefully. And, she had a fairly peaceful night. And, thankfully she doesn't seem to be in much pain. At times she has a horrible cough. The Hospice triage nurse did come in the middle of the afternoon and she did help to put a few things in perspective and helped us know how to do a few more things for Mother (maybe a bit easier?). I was told that I didn't pull as much weight as the nurse did when she was showing us how to "hoist" Mother higher up in the bed! There is no question that I have next to no strength!!!! But she did say that I did much better the second try! So we are settling into a different lifestyle...not exactly one that many of us would choose if we were given the choice! March Madness of a different kind!
Friday, March 25, 2011
Arrived!
We got up early. I started doing things around the house to get ready to go. Woody stayed out of my way...he vacuumed some for me and said that he would finish the vacuuming after I left. Joy came over to read to Woody (a trial!). He is going to listen to Joy read Super Books while I am gone. After he listened to Joy read, he went on a walk. I finished up getting rid of a few dust bunnies. I went over to bid the neighbors farewell. Woody was planting the rest of the onion sets that he started planting yesterday. Then we were off. We first picked up a prescription for Woody. Then we headed off the back way to Murfreesboro and stopped at Melany's to drop off a couple of things that we had had of theirs since Christmas. Melany was at a college class and I only saw Alex. Then we headed off to the airport. Woody dropped me off and I headed off on my adventure...checking in and then through security...I passed without having to be patted down or a body scan! Everything went on schedule from take-off to landing.
Woody headed home. He stopped on the way back and bought some potato sets. Then he stopped for the most important thing...new tires! Glad to have those! Woody then planted the potato sets. It took me a while to get logged on after I talked to Woody...so I may have forgotten a thing or two that he did today.
Anyway, I am here. My niece picked me up at the airport and then we headed to my sister's house...we arrived at the same time as the transport arrived with my mother and sister. Mother is back in her room. She seems to be a bit more peaceful here than she was at the hospital. She recognizes me sometimes and sometimes not. We have had some "interesting" conversations to say the least. She is very sick. We will talk to the Hospice nurse in the morning. Then the Hospice team will come sometime the first of the week. So we are dealing with the "situation" as best we can. More tomorrow...perhaps even a picture!
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Up In The Air!
Woody has been busy in the yard again. The gardens look so nice that he has mulched. Lots of work! He took a walk after lunch and then ran errands for me. I called and cancelled my hair cut appointment next week and asked if there was a way for her to work me in and she did! Thank you, Jody! When I got up early this morning, I started getting clothes out (I had been keeping up with my wash this week as I knew of the possibility of needing to fly to AZ.) to pack. I started packing before getting an airline ticket. I had said to Woody that I needed to fly there either tomorrow or Saturday or Sunday. He watched the weather and saw that there were going to be some strong storms over the weekend so we decided that I would go tomorrow. After my haircut, I headed over to Abigail's sewing/craft room and we worked some more on her skirt. I had told her that she would have it finished so she could wear it to church on Sunday. So we got to it and she did finish it! Yeah! It looks really cute on her and she is so pleased with her accomplishment. Before I left she was wanting to know what her next sewing project would be! This evening I have been packing. Woody is downstairs reading (I think!). Oh, and, watching March Madness with the volume turned down.
So...the good Lord willin' I will be blogging from AZ tomorrow (Of course, it will depend on internet connection...I know that I was able to when we were there for Thanksgiving so I figure that I will be able to this time.)
Tonight's blog picture = a brown headed cow bird (according to my internet research!). Bird experts please correct me if my research failed me!
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Whirlwind day?
The day started off with Woody heading over to the neighbors with me following a bit later. This was the day that Nathan and Kathy took Abigail back to see her ear surgeon in Nashville. Goosey and I took care of the others. For the first part of the morning I stayed over at their house with Graham while he finished up his school work and Woody brought the rest of the crew over to our house to play. When Graham was finished, we joined the others. We had lunch over at their house and then came back over to ours till their parents and Abigail returned. Abigail did have good news...the ear drum that the doctor made for her seems to be doing well. There still is a small hole in the lower part of her ear drum, but the doctor said that it was about the size that an ear tube would be...so she was fine with it. So for the time being things are good and Abigail is thrilled that no more surgeries were scheduled!
After they got home, I went next door and Abigail sewed the seam in her skirt and then came over here to press the seam and then pinned down the waist casing. She will sew that tomorrow and then insert the elastic. Then all she will have to do is the hem and she will have a skirt!
Woody, Nathan, and I went to church this evening. Nathan needed a ride because the rest of his family were going to the skating rink for a special children's emphasis due to it being Spring Break. But in the end they got disappointed as the skating rink people forgot and didn't come to open the doors for them! But they had pizza and movies back at the church...so they still had a fun night!
And, as I said when we got home from church there were tornado warnings. So we watched the TV in the family room...near our safe place (the downstair's bathroom). Watching radar, Woody never got too concerned this time. All is quiet at the moment at least! We really hardly got any rain at all out of this front passing through. I have known most of the day that a front was on its way--my aches and pains told me!
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Lots of Water Under the Bridge!
We have just returned from a very pleasant evening spent with friends and family. The parents of the friend that Nathan, Kathy, Graham, and Abigail went to visit in Southeast Asia invited Nathan and Kathy's family and us for dinner. Yummy! After we ate, Nathan and Kathy shared a DVD of the pictures that they took while on their trip. Nice ending to a very nice day.
Our weather has been delightful...once again we were in the low 80'sF. It is supposed to rain tomorrow and then our temperatures will go down a bit and it will be more typical spring temps for us (according to the weathermen).
Monday, March 21, 2011
First Full Day of Spring
Sunday, March 20, 2011
Branches Holding Up Supermoon Over TN
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Waiting
Aren't the tulips in tonight's picture lovely?! I received these bulbs for my birthday and decided to watch them bloom inside and them outside later. I'm so glad that I did...they are just beautiful to look at. One is definitely reminded that Spring is just around the corner when looking at them!
Woody has just reported that the moon is up! Off to take pictures that hopefully I'll post tomorrow!
Friday, March 18, 2011
Maybe I'll learn
Perhaps if I loose what I have written enough times, I will realize that I should publish the blog from Picassa but with only the collage and then write the blog at blogspot! I had tonight's blog all written and then it bogged down over at picassa where I create the collage and wouldn't publish over here...so now to remember what we did today and write it all again!
By the way this was first titled "accomplishments & anticipation." Woody accomplished a lot today...he finished mulching one of the large gardens in the back yard...photos on the left. He also read and completed his "Experiencing God" homework. Abigail's accomplishment was finishing her scissor case. We are anticipating lots of lillies of the valley...they are just peeping their leaves above the mulch in the top middle picture. Then I was anticipating the "super moon" when I saw tonight's moon and decided to take a few pictures. Tomorrow night I will get out the tripod! I realized that I should have taken one more picture of anticipation. I received a package of beautiful fabric in the mail today (hopefully Spring finery for some little neighbor girls) and it is all washed and now "upholstering" our family room couch...anticipation as to what it will become!
Joy and I had a reading lesson today...she decided that was enough. Esther is still in a "playing hooky" mood (guess that is the right of a preschooler!). After supper Woody and I made a quick trip to the Credit Union and then on to WalMart...one of my allergy medications has become over-the-counter and I had run out. We picked up a couple of things in the produce dept. Now Woody will only go to Kroger in the morning. Woody is watching TV at the moment and I'm planning to work a bit more on Abigail's blouse.
Thursday, March 17, 2011
Make Hay While the Sun Shines!
I had school with Joy over here this morning (Esther decided to play hooky today). I had a sewing lesson with Abigail after Joy's lessons. Abigail is getting close to finishing her scissor case. She is really working hard. This afternoon while everyone was working outside, I was inside sewing on a blouse for Abigail. Her next sewing project is going to be a skirt to go with this blouse.
Woody got a call from one of his Vanderbilt research nurses. She was just checking in. He told her that one of the tumors that they had been measuring at NIH was gone. She said that was good and that she would report to Dr. Sosman.
This evening we were invited next door for supper. They were trying a new veggie lasagna...all the adults voted it "a keeper." Some of the children said that it "wasn't their favorite" (their polite way of saying that they really didn't like it...but everyone of them ate a helping!) We also had yummy yogurt/fruit popsicles that Joy and Esther had made! Kathy, Joy and Esther are "good cooks" (as Elijah told them)!
Woody was pretty tired when he came in from doing the yard work. I think that for a minute he wasn't sure that he would be able to get up out of his chair and go next door for supper...but the call of food won out! He felt much better after eating and sitting at the table for a while. I don't know if he is watching TV or resting his eyes...I hear the TV going...but that doesn't always mean that he is watching!
Happy St. Patrick's Day!
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Where is/are MY...
I had school with Joy and Esther this morning and then after lunch I had a sewing lesson with Abigail. Graham came over here and read some more to Goosey from the "Chronicles of Narnia." When I got back from taking the above pictures, Woody headed out the door to take about an hour walk. This afternoon I went to the church library to work for a while. One of my co-library workers and I got several things done that have some new books closer to being put on the shelves. I came home from working in the library and Woody left to go to his "Experiencing God" class. We have sort of been like two ships passing in the night today...I arrive and he leaves, he arrives and I leave...
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Tiring Tuesday!
Monday, March 14, 2011
Evening showers bring...
After our special breakfast treat, I got the rest of the things ready so we could head to the library. Woody helped go through the nonfiction shelves and decide which books needed to be archived and which needed to be deleted. We are going through the shelves prior to moving all the books off the shelves when we renovate the library in a couple of months...trying to get some things out that won't have to be moved when the time comes. I worked on getting quite a few books ready for their next step in processing...a bunch more books ready to be entered into the computer. I also went through the newest book order and set aside some books that can be assigned for memorials. We brought those home along with the list of memorials to fill so I can get on with the next step in the memorial process. We came home for a late lunch. I flopped on the bed for a few minutes to help an aching back. Then we went back to the library to gather up a few things that I had decided that I needed here at home. I took a few before shots with the camera...now waiting to take the after in a few months!
After we got home, we went on a short walk. We walked to a little pond. You could really hear frogs this afternoon. I saw one in the pond...but then it disappeared and I never spotted another one. The clouds were rolling in while we walked and about a half an hour after we got home it started raining. I think that we are due for some pretty good rain throughout the evening. We will have to keep an eye on the wireless rain gauge...last I looked it had already measured some.
Woody just returned from Monday night prayer meeting at church. I didn't give him much chance to read today...although he did take a book with him to the library just in case he had some down time...not likely...I kept him busy! He'll probably read and watch TV this evening. I think that I will do the same.
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Springy Sunday
We managed to set our clocks ahead (Spring forward!) last night and got up at the proper time to get to the early service at church. There were a couple of folk who obviously didn't set their clocks as they came into the church service just prior to it being over! It must have been rather confusing in their minds as to what was going on...the preacher was finishing up his sermon rather than things that are usually happening just prior to the service starting! I kept thinking how confused I would feel if that had happened to me! Woody and I both went to Sunday School after the service. We came home and had lunch. Woody watched basketball and prepared his Vegetable Chili ingredients and got it to simmering before it was time for him to go back to church for a deacon ordination council. He put me in charge of the seasonings so it wouldn't be too hot...trying not to have it five alarm hot!!! It is pretty spicy...I may have gone overboard a bit this time...but still very good! When Woody left for his meeting, he left me in charge of stirring the pot!!!! Shortly after he left I heard a cry of distress outside. It was Esther...she and her sisters and her cousin were out in the front yard...the rest were on bikes, but Esther was walking/running and she had taken a tumble. I came to her rescue....brushed her off and held her on the front porch for a minute or two and then the girls decided that they wanted to come inside rather than ride bikes. So they came in and built with K'nex and some lego type blocks. In a while the big girls decided to go home, but Esther decided to stay here. In a bit Graham came over. While all this coming/playing/going was happening, I was attempting to trace a pattern for a blouse for Abigail (trying to think in centimeters, again!). Esther decided to go home, so I walked her back home (she's not tall enough to open their front door.)...so at that point just Graham was over here. Woody came home while Graham was still here and found his chili simmering to his liking so he decided that it was finished. It can cook anywhere from one to five hours...according to the recipe...the longer the better. Woody had time for a bowl of the chili before it was time to return to church for the evening service. I worked on which picture to post tonight and decided that the one that should be tonight's blog picture was the one that we set out to capture today. I almost have the pattern traced for Abigail's blouse...so guess that is where I will head after posting tonight's blog. I'm really off due to the time change...it seems earlier than it is according to the clocks...guess the clocks haven't convinced my body clock...yet!
Saturday, March 12, 2011
Super Saturday
Friday, March 11, 2011
BIG TRUCK!
I don't feel like I have accomplished anything today...except shiver...I have felt cold all day...hurry up Spring!!!!! Woody spent some time outside today working in one of the raised beds (the garlic/basil bed)...weeding and getting it ready to be mulched. He went to the Credit Union, has read, worked crossword puzzles, and watched some basketball. I have been picking up the mess I made sewing this week...getting ready to make the next mess when I start my next sewing project. We had planned to work a while in the church library today but that got postponed due to the wait on the BIG TRUCK.
Thursday, March 10, 2011
3-Ring Circus!
This afternoon I met some friends and we went out for lunch. Then after that I stopped in at Janie's Sewing Center and just enjoyed visiting for a while. It has been a cold, drizzly day with some sleet thrown in. Woody took a walk while I was gone. He has read, watched some TV, rested, worked a crossword puzzle or two. I have spent some time going through all the pictures that I took this morning of the show...we have quite the little gymnasts...with a juggler or two or...thrown in too!
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Wet Wednesday
After lunch I went over and had a sewing lesson with Abigail. Later in the afternoon Graham came over for a short time and built with K'nex.
Woody got up early and made pancakes this morning. He makes a large batch and then puts those not eaten in the freezer for other breakfasts. Woody went for about an hour walk this afternoon. He has read, watched a DVD, and rested. This evening we both went to church. He went to his Experiencing God class and I worked in the library.
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Rainy Tuesday
Monday, March 7, 2011
Nippy Monday
Woody walked to the Post Office and the pharmacy this afternoon. After he got back he watched a library DVD. It isn't as cold as it was yesterday but still pretty chilly. It only got to the upper 40's today. Woody is at church now for Monday night prayer meeting.
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Chilly Sunday
This morning we went to the early church service. And, then both went to Sunday School. Woody taught his 6th grade boys' class. We came home and had lunch and then we both took it easy for a while. Then it was time for Woody to go to the deacon's meeting. After that meeting, the deacons met with the prospective candidate for Minister to Students. Woody came home and practically turned right back around and went to the evening service. After the service, there was to be a vote on whether to call this young man and his family to come to our church...so Woody still isn't home. I traced a pattern off to make Esther a dress this afternoon, but realized after I started laying it out on the fabric that I really didn't have enough fabric to make the dress that I planned...so guess I need to go on to plan B...whatever that is...either don't use this fabric or find another pattern that it will work with! Just don't know if I'm up to tracing off another pattern today.
It has been so very cold today...never got out of the thirties...hovered around 32 all day long...and part of that time the wind chills were in the 20's. Brrrrr after having some pleasant spring-like weather for a couple of days! Yesterday and into the wee hours of this morning we received just smidgen less than 2 inches of rain...so it is damp and cold.
Saturday, March 5, 2011
Too Close for Comfort!
Well, I'll try again...my first attempt went off into cyberspace! Here are some of the pictures that I took yesterday, as we drove by some of the tornado damage that happened probably less than three miles from our house. Note the trees just snapped off like toothpicks in the lower left picture. The top left and center pictures are of the same barn...just different angles. The middle picture shows a huge oak...just uprooted...and that wasn't the only one there was a whole row behind this one just lying on their sides with roots out of the ground. The blue tarps show roof damage. I have been thinking about all the people who suffered damage today as we have had a lot of rain...at this point our rain gauge shows almost 1 1/2 inches...not good for clean up or for those with damage. When we drove by with my window down so I could snap a few pictures, we heard chain saws. What these pictures show is what is left after four days of clean up. Our hearts go out to the families who suffered loss...those who lost a loved one and those who are recovering from loss of homes, businesses, etc. A mobile home landed on the gentleman who was killed in this tornado.
I was in the midst of writing this blog and I got a phone call and after that I had to get a bowl of the vegetarian chili that Woody made today. Woody got up really early and headed out on a six mile walk (to Kroger and back). Then before 7am he headed off to do our weekly grocery shopping. Later in the morning he went to the library. This afternoon he prepared all the veggies for the chili. Then he went to a meeting at church to meet a candidate for the position of Minister to Students. When he got home, he finished making the chili. By the way, it is very good! I have spent the day in the sewing room...finishing up a couple of things and getting ready to start something else. This evening Woody has been watching basketball and resting his eyes.
Friday, March 4, 2011
Home!
Tonight's picture is of Wildcat Falls. It is right on the road that we take back through the TN countryside on our way home. I spotted it on our way out Tuesday morning and we looked for it on the way back and Woody got us turned around and pulled off the road so I could get a picture today.
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Wispy no more!
This morning we checked out of the hotel and left on the 9am hotel shuttle. We first went to the voucher office and turned in the information that they needed...but still needed another authorization. Then we went to the car and put our suitcase, etc. into the car. Then we went upstairs to the clinic and got the paper work that we needed to get our ID's updated and got further authorization for the voucher. We went back to the voucher office and got that paper work underway. Then we went on to the place to get our updated ID's. We got our pictures taken and were given our new ID's. Then we found a quiet spot and read for a while. Then we went downstairs and had soup at Au Bon Pain, again. This time I had their New England Clam Chowder and Woody had Chicken Gumbo. After we ate, we picked up the reimbursement check from the voucher office. Then we headed up to the clinic. Woody was the first patient to sign in for the afternoon clinic. He was called back (almost as soon as he signed) in to be weighed and have his blood pressure taken. He came back out to the waiting room and had no more than sat down than he was called back to an exam room. And, not long after that Dr. Rosatti came in and gave us the report and checked him out. Then she told us that Dr. Yang would be the "doctor in charge" to see Woody today. Dr. Rosatti is our Fellow till July...then she rotates to another place in the hospital. Well, we waited and waited and waited and waited and...finally Dr. Yang came in...about an hour later and spent a short time with us. He did answer Woody's questions and then we were free to head out. We had to make a stop at the pharmacy to pick up two prescriptions. We got those very quickly and then we were out NIH's doors and on our way back to TN. We were on the way by 2:45pm Eastern time...so 15 min. prior to DC's rush hour start. We are only on the beltway for a very short time so we were off the beltway just before rush hour started. We drove 225 miles and have stopped for the night in Troutville, VA.
The reason for tonight's blog title is that there was one place that they were watching that Dr. Rosatti described as wispy when she told us how large it was. That description was back in September when Woody went back for his four week check up after his TIL protocol. Well, she can no longer see that place at all...so wispy no more!
Tomorrow night...the good Lord willin' I will be blogging from home.
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Scan Day
We left the hotel on their shuttle at 8am and as soon as we got to building 10 of NIH we headed straight to the lab. Then we read for a while and then headed to the CT scan waiting room. Woody got his banana "shake" and he was called back in record time and was out from his scan by 11am. We had a bowl of soup at Au Bon Pain and then headed off in the car to "explore" a bit. We went back to the speciality grocery store and bought a couple of things. Then we walked across the street to Giant Foods and bought a couple of other things (fine noodles for my chicken noodle soup and several different types of whole wheat pasta that we can't find at home). Then we walked back to the little speciality strip mall and walked around there. I enjoyed looking in several of the clothing stores (getting ideas for my sewing...not exactly the type of customer that they want...but it was fun for me...and it didn't take any money out of Woody's wallet...yet...just wait till the ideas gel and I get ready to execute them in fabrics that I will need to purchase!). Then we headed back to NIH and found a parking place in almost the exact same spot as where we had parked yesterday. Then we headed back to the shuttle waiting room...had about a 20 minute wait to head back to the hotel room. Woody, I hope, is resting. I came downstairs to use the free wireless that is in the hotel lobby. I wanted to email Woody's research nurse so she could have paper work in order for us to renew our ID badges. Just think...the end of next month they will expire...it has been a year since our visit when April 27th rolls around. I figure that our next visit will be after that date so want to get them renewed so we don't have to go through so much red tape without id's the next time that we come. I figured that if I let the nurse know that she would have the needed papers all ready for us when we see them tomorrow afternoon.
So we have had a good day. Woody has survived another round of CT scans and is now under the orders to drink a lot. I got him ice prior to coming down here so hopefully he has been downing water along with resting. Tomorrow we will meet with part of the research team sometime around 1pm. Then we will do whatever needs to be done after seeing the docs...like picking up the voucher check, getting any prescriptions filled, and renewing our id badges. After that we will head on down the road to take a few miles off Friday's drive home. So...the good Lord willin' I'll be blogging somewhere between Bethesda, MD and Tullahoma, TN tomorrow night!
Happy Birthday to my sister (I won't tell you how old she is...especially since she is seven years younger than I am...well, I guess technically till next week she is only 6 years younger than I...so now you know her age IF you know how old I am and when I add another year!). There, Cheryl, you made the blog!
And, with these words...I have just completed my 800th blog post!
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
In Like a Lamb!
Tomorrow Woody will have lab work and a CT scan and then we are free till we have to go back the next day for his appointment (1pm) with the doctors during their clinic time. So not a lot happening this time (at least as far as we know at the moment!).